What is insecurity? The Webster’s dictionary defines it as follows:
1: not confident or sure, uncertain,
2: not adequately guarded or sustained: unsafe,
3: not firmly fastened or fixed: shaky
4 a: not highly stable or well-adjusted b: deficient in assurance: beset by fear and anxiety
The World System is designed to push insecurity buttons
We live in a world of sin and darkness which has much uncertainty associated with it. As human beings, it is natural to be insecure. A child cries for the safety of Mom or Dad, school age children get anxious leaving their parents to go to school. Teenagers feel anxiety in fear of not fitting in.
When we become adults, insecurities still haunt us in a variety of ways. People may be insecure about their weight, lack of education, status in life, what car they own, what is their zip code. Hollywood, through movies, music, and commercials plays into those insecurities by urging people to dress a certain way, use a specific make up, have a certain car, drink popular drinks, so they can be accepted, admired and look successful.
Each person to some degree wonders what others think of them, and they prefer to be seen better than they really feel inside!! That is being human living a natural life. However, when we come to Salvation, the Lord starts creating a solid foundation of truth in our lives to create stability, assurance, and security in our hearts. For some of us it is a harder and a longer process than others. If you’ve had safe and loving parents some security was already established by them, so now you can continue to build with God’s truth. For others who have come from unsafe, unavailable, abusive, alcoholic, controlling, or a manipulative environment, there is much tearing down that needs to happen before a solid foundation is established.
There are common characteristics to an insecure person
Some of the symptoms of insecurity are: fear, anxiety, or excessive focus on what others think of us, being interested in other people’s business, not wanting to miss out on anything others are doing, being performance driven, excessive spending to keep up with others, bragging, needing to be in certain circles, feeling easily threatened by others, and so on.
If you notice many of the above symptoms are related to someone or some other people. Because one is not secure, they either have to attach themselves to someone who looks secure, or try to compete with others to feel better about themselves! When one is unsure of themselves, they have to define themselves in relation to someone else. Insecurity is caused by attaching ourselves to the wrong thing!!
The righteous shall flourish like a palm tree,
He shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon.
13 Those who are planted in the house of the Lord
Shall flourish in the courts of our God.
14 They shall still bear fruit in old age;
They shall be fresh and flourishing,
15 To declare that the Lord is upright;
He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. Psalm 92:12-15
The Lord comes to rescue us from this bondage. No man has the capacity to define us, love us, and understand us like the Lord does. He is the only one who has designed us and knows us better than we know ourselves. The weaknesses that are frustrating to us and wished weren’t there, the Lord knows why they’re there and how he is going to shape them for something useful in His kingdom.
As we stay in the right relationship with the Lord and obey what He asks us, we become like big trees such as a palm tree or a cedar where our roots grow deep in God. He becomes our rock. We’re not shaken by every opinion or wind of doctrine that comes along our way. Because we are well established, we produce fruit and our lives flourish in Him. The Lord is our solid rock and foundation. If we are going to live secure lives, no other person or thing should have that place in our lives!!
Examine your heart, and see what gives you security in life?
Are you more secure in some relationships than others? Why is that? What are you going to do about it?