When Adam & Eve sinned, it separated them from God. As a result fear entered in, and insecurity took over! Man will live in an insecure state until they get in the right relationship with their heavenly Father and continue to depend on Him. Jesus came to redeem us from this state and reconcile us to the Father. If we are going to be the people of God who represent Him well on the earth, we must confront insecurity, not make excuses for it by blaming others, and pursue living a secure life in Him!!
Secure people get their acceptance from the right source
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, 4 just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, took 5 having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, 6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. Ephesians 1:3-6
Man’s acceptance is flaky and inconsistent. If I don’t accept myself consistently, how can I be a good source of acceptance for somebody else? Or how can I expect someone else to provide that acceptance for me consistently? The scripture tells us that we are “accepted in the Beloved”. When we get a revelation of that, it will change our lives and focus from looking to the wrong places for acceptance!!
Sometimes, God uses people to help us believe God’s love and acceptance of us. They may mentor us for a season, but even those people should not become the foundation of our security. I look at those individuals as an umbilical cord in the mother’s womb. The baby is fed through the umbilical cord for a season while in the womb. The umbilical cord is not the source of life, but it is the conduit for life- sustaining nourishment. There will come a time when that baby has to take a life of his/her own outside the womb and learn to drink milk and use his/her own lungs. While the umbilical cord served a great purpose for season, it is not needed after the baby is born. Just as the baby still needs a mother, we will continue to need teachers, mentors, or Godly advisors. However, our faith needs to be established in our relationship to Jesus and no other person!!
We can approach God with confidence because of the work of Jesus on our behealf. Each of us must know who we are according to the word of God!! We need to learn to hear the voice of God for ourselves rather than depending on someone else hearing the Lord for us. There may be times that confirmation from another trusted person is necessary, but our security is established in our relationship with the Lord. We can’t depend on others for source of life, and security. The Lord has given us the Holy Spirit, so we can continually stay connected to Him!!
A secure Person is not easily shaken
Insecure people walk around with tainted glasses, and they interpret the world around them as if everything is directed towards them. In addition, if something happened that could be taken positively or negatively, they will go to the negative and think the worst. Insecure people have difficulty loving people and close their hearts quickly. They allow things to get to their hearts easily and as a result can have a hard time with forgiveness because the offense for an insecure person is always in an exaggerated form!
Surely he will never be shaken;
The righteous will be in everlasting remembrance.
7 He will not be afraid of evil tidings;
His heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord.
8 His heart is established;
He will not be afraid,
Until he sees his desire upon his enemies.
9 He has dispersed abroad,
He has given to the poor;
His righteousness endures forever;
His horn will be exalted with honor. Psalm 112:6-9
Secure people are not afraid of man’s response or lack of response to them. They can live life without fear, so as a result they can judge a situation with greater clarity and fairness. They don’t use backbiting and gossip to defend their position but stay discreet in handling their differences with others. They are also less prone to reacting to a situation and don’t cause strife and insecurity in someone else’s heart. That allows a secure people to represent the Lord well on the earth, for they don’t perceive every problem as a personal attack against them!!
Do you consider yourself a secure person? If not, who/what pushes your buttons? Allow the Lord to show you and confront those issues!