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We live in a culture that craves to create celebrities and be impressed by them!! We have celebrities in the body of Christ and out in the world who get a lot of attention and publicity from the crowd. However, as God’s people we are to look up and look around us to honor God and those God has placed in our lives. What a blessing for someone to know that we honor them for what they have meant in our lives!!

Then the king said, “What honor or dignity has been bestowed on Mordecai for this?” Esther 6:3

Honor: Hebrew word H3366 -price, value, preciousness, honor, splendor,

Honor is a humble recognition of someone. Mordecai was a man who saved the king’s life, and the Lord brought this to the king’s attention through the reading of the book of records.  While the king was a powerful man who didn’t need to recognize anyone, he understood that he still wouldn’t be alive if it wasn’t for the work Mordecai had done to expose an attempt to kill him. This was something that was honorable before the king, and he desired to acknowledge Mordecai for it.

Can you think of a person who did something for you that you could not repay? Every time you think of them, you can’t help but think of them with great honor and appreciation for what they did for you. Those kinds of people remind us of our history and give us the right perspective in life.  We know we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for certain individuals who gave us a chance that we wouldn’t have had otherwise.  This could be a parent, a teacher, a mentor, or a friend.  Jesus is one that we can’t ever repay, but we can choose to live our lives by honoring Him.

When I left Iran at the age of 15, I could not speak any foreign language. My second cousin Ramina who could speak French was just granted  a visa by the United States Embassy in France. Since she knew that my Mother & I needed help with interpretation to go to a U.S. Emabassy, she extended her trip another 2-3 weeks, so she could help us out when we got there from Iran. That was a great help and a great sacrifice on her part since it cost her time and money to stay for that long in France for us.  After a couple of attempts in getting a visa, I was able to receive one form U.S. Embassy in Switzerland through her help. I was also able to fly with her to the U.S. from Europe after they denied my Mom an entry to the U.S.  I  honor her love and sacrifice, and I am very grateful for what she did for me.

Honor is important in marriages. The scripture tells husbands to honor their wives, and it tells the wives to be submitted and respectful to their husbands. Don’t you think our marriages would look a lot different if there was honor in relationships? Honor would even change the atmosphere of the house. The children’s attitude towards the parents and each other can even be changed because they see the parents honoring each other. Honor looks at someone and considers them precious. Honor puts weight and significance on the person as well their position. In human relationships, who do you honor the most in your life? Is your spouse on top of that list?

Honor all [men]. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king. 1Peter 2:17

Honor must be given to all men. Finally, the scripture tells us to honor all people. When we honor people, we choose to see them through God’s eyes rather than our own eyes. God created each of us in His image. He gave the task of stewardship to Adam and Eve before the fall which he didn’t take away after the fall. That means that every man/woman walking on the face of this earth has honor and dignity bestowed upon them by the creator. The honor we give someone cannot be dependent upon us liking or disliking the person, their socioeconomic status, education, beauty, talent, or benefit to us.

Honor is a long lasting attitude toward God and people. The more we walk in humility, the more we find ourselves honoring God and others because we come to appreciate and value who they are. We are able to see them through God’s eyes.

Are you a person who honors others regardless of who they are? If not, ask the Lord to show you what is hindering you in honoring others and valuing them. What is your honor dependent upon?

When the Lord led me to do a devotional on honor, I was surprised by the various words in Hebrews and Greek that are used to describe the word “honor”. Anytime you have different words to describe something, it shows the significance of that word in that culture. The scripture mentions honor many times, so we should pay atttention to it as much as we focus on the word “love”.

We live in a culture who loves to “love”!!  We love our God, family, dogs, house, shoes, football team, and so on. We generally think if we love God or someone, then it means we honor them as well. That’s not necessarily the case. Let’s take a look at a few scriptures that speak of honor.

Then it shall be to Me a name of joy, a praise, and an honor before all nations of the earth, who shall hear all the good that I do to them; they shall fear and tremble for all the goodness and all the prosperity that I provide for it.’ Jeremiah 33:9

Honor  (H-8597): beauty, splendor, glory

God is worthy of all honor. We can love God, but do we recognize and contemplate how beautiful, awesome, powerful, and glorious He is? We can love God and get casual with our attitude towards Him. We can run to Him with our  demands and run back to whatever we were doing before. We are dealing with the God of universe who holds everything in the palm of His hands. He has authority over every created thing. He can move mountains, shake governments, and change hearts. He is an all powerful God who stands outside of time. When we stand before Him, all boasting dissolves because He knows our very thoughts and the words we speak.

When we honor God, our vision becomes clearer by letting Him have His rightful place and seeing Him magnified for who He is. This is so important for our spiritual walk. We can rest in God knowing He is awesome!!

So they were offended at Him. But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own country and in his own house.” ⁵⁸ Now He did not do many mighty works there because of their unbelief. Matthew 13:57-58

Honor (G820): without honor, unhonored, dishonored 2) base, of less esteem

Honor is based on God’s choice not man’s popularity. When Jesus came on the scene, He didn’t look the part. He didn’t fit the religious group’s idea of the Son of God. As a result, people did not recognize Him and honor Him for who He was. People had a certain idea of who should be honored as a religious authority. In addition to the fact that Jesus seemed threatening to the relgious establishment of His day because He was so different. They weren’t accustomed to this. Jesus didn’t fit their picture!!

Can you imagine being around Jesus and not recognizing who is standing before you? It doesn’t take any risk to follow someone who already has a large following and is popular with the crowd. That’s easy. It’s happening all around us. Most people like to jump on the bandwagon of success because that gives them the feeling that they are successful too. However, it is a lot harder to stand with someone who is not honored, or recognized for who they are in the kingdom of God!!

When we take our eyes off of what we see naturally, the Lord can open our spiritual eyes to see what God sees. Many missed Jesus’ mighty works because they had unbelief and did not honor the Son of God who was sent to them to be a blessing in their midst!! Do we honor people based God’s choice and election or do we honor those we are comfortable with?

Honor is placing the right value on someone. Another aspect of the word “honor” is value. We are such a consumer based and affluent society that we value things based on their immediate benefit to us. So if I enjoy my new iphone,I may think I have the greatest thing, but it is just a matter of time before a new version of the  iphone is  released and now my version looks like a substandard version!! We do the same thing with sport or Hollywood celebrities. They are important and significant for a minute until a more talented or handsome one shows up on the scene. Value has a longer lasting affect because it has a greater significance in our lives than just the benefit it provides for us in the moment.

Honor your father and your mother, and, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ Matt 19:19

Honor ( G5091): to estimate, fix the value, for the value of something belonging to one’s self, to revere, venerate.

God expects us to honor our parents. The scripture is very clear on honoring our parents. That’s the place of recognizing the weight and the significance of the person for the long haul in our lives. The Bible doesn’t state that we should only honor our parents when we are young and living under their roof. It doesn’t assert that once we are married and leave our parents; we don’t need to honor them any longer. Neither does it mention that when they get really old and have no benefit to us, we can stop honoring them. The scripture doesn’t even tell us to honor them only if they were great parents. Honoring our parents is a lifelong attitude. It is something that God places great value on, and He is commanding us to do it.

Honor is not a popular word in our culture, but as believers we are called to be people who honor God and others. Do we honor others as the scripture prescribes? I will continue with the subject of honor in the next devotional.

God’s desire is for us to be changed into the image and likeness of His Son Jesus. For many of us this is a long and sometimes painful process. However, along the way there will be evidence of true internal change. Some will be noticed by others based on our lifestyle change or how we respond to situations. Many of them will be noticed by us because we know we are not in bondage to those things that used to control or define us anymore!

There are many evidences that can point to the fact that we are changed people. For example, we have a hunger to know the Word of God, we have a desire to put God first in all our affairs,or we want to see people reconciled to God and to each other, all of those are evidences that we are being transformed. There are many other evidences as well. I would like to highlight a couple of those areas.

For when one says, “I am of Paul,” and another, “I am of Apollos,” are you not carnal? 1Corinthians 3:4

Defintiion of Carnal: Greek 4559- governed by mere human nature not by the Spirit of God.

One of the major evidences of change is that we are moving away from carnality and allowing the Spirit of God to govern us. This is a lot more difficult that one may think! In the above scripture, Paul is not happy about the fact that people’s vision has gotten so small that they have to choose between their apostles and decide who they stand with. That’s actually a political spirit that tries to take sides and divide a church or a congregation. Jesus has to be first in each and every situation!!

The body of Christ is suffering from carnality, and we see church splits and various factions and divisions due greatly to man seeing through his natural eyes and taking sides. A transformed life is led by the Spirit of God and evaluates everything in the light of truth not in the light of one’s own personal relationships, preferences, or the benefit one may receive.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

The evidence of a transformed life is the fruit of the Spirit being developed in the life of a believer. This is where the rubber meets the road!!  We can say, teach, preach, pray, prophesy, or do a lot of other things, but the question is, does our life contain the fruit of the spirit? Especially when we are squeezed under tough, stressful, or hurtful situations, can we say that those qualities are evident in our lives?

But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord. 2 Corinthians 3:18

Most of us will spend a lifetime walking with God and allowing Him to change us into His image. The question is not “Have we arrived?”, but “Do we recognize we haven’t arrived?”  I hear many people tell me that they were raised in a church but didn’t grow spiritually. Some of these people spent 20 or 30 year of their lives in their Bible believing churches. The church became a social, cultural, or ministry thing people did.

I didn’t grow up in a church because living in a Muslim nation it wasn’t easy to have access to a church, so it pains me greatly when I hear those kinds of stories. I know the kind of price some people pay in other nations to gather together to read the Word and worship God. Jesus didn’t come to just have a following!! He was looking for followers who are willing to be changed by His power and grace!!

If the church in America is going to have potency to be the light and salt of the world, that potency will come from transformed lives of each professed believer. This nation is not going to be changed by another new program a church offers. The believers need to leave the corporate ideas with corporate America. The church is not a place for self-promotion or creating a new “holy” social club!! The self needs to go!!

The only hope for this nation or any other nation is a group of transformed people who are not afraid to share the gospel and tell people the truth. At the same time, their lives must back up their claim to transformed life!! Each of us has a mandate from the Lord to do the work He desires for us in our homes, at work, in our churches, and in our communities. We have a responsibility to take those mandates very seriously and not just follow the crowd even if it’s the church crowd!!  It’s time for each of us to make a decision in the light of His marvelous work, and be a standard bearer for Jesus!!

I am continuing with the subject of transformation from my last devotional.  Galatians 5 is very direct about some of the issues that cause us to fall back into the bondage of sin, and it also gives us solution on how to stay free once we have tasted freedom through Jesus. If we are in bondage to any form of sin, we will be hindered from our spiritual growth and transformation.

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21

4. The works of the flesh must have no room in a believer’s life. The scripture is unswerving that those who live to indulge their flesh will not inherit the kingdom of God. Each of us may have a different struggle as it relates to the works of the flesh listed above. However, the sobering fact is that we don’t have to be doing all of the above sins to get cut off from our inheritance. Each sin, if practiced regularly can cut off the life giving blood of Jesus and His transforming power in our lives!! We have a tendency to focus on, “big sins” such as adultery or murder, but the scripture lists contention and envy in the same category called “works of the flesh”.

Some of the above sins are connected to each other. For example, a person with selfish ambition may also have a problem with jealousy or envy, because they want to outshine others. Contention can lead to hatred or outbursts of wrath. Many of these sins can stay hidden for a long time in one’s heart and attitude before there is visible evidence of sin. That means we can easily deny their existence in our lives!

There is a fleshly satisfaction in giving into the “works of the flesh”. Every time, we get an enjoyment from sin, we feed and strengthen our flesh and weaken the control of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.  Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another. Galatians 5: 25

5. Walk in the Spirit. The Lord’s solution to the “works of the flesh” is to walk in the Spirit. The spirit must lead, not the flesh. We are called to lean on the Spirit. That means if the Lord says “wait”, then we wait. If He asks us to speak up, then we’ll do that. We must be willing to lay down what He asks us to lay down regardless of the cost to us. We choose to be in step with the Spirit. We’re not running ahead of God, but we’re not lagging behind Him either! It is in those quiet places where God changes us because we have chosen the Spirit over the flesh!! When we do this, we are allowing the Spirit man to grow, and we are starving our carnal nature!!

Galatians 5:25 also clearly states that we don’t want to provoke someone else to sin. That means if we know someone’s weakness, we don’t intentionally push their buttons to see if they will react to it. That’s not loving our neighbor as ourselves! We do our part as much as it depends on us not to provoke them.

To walk in the Spirit requires great determination. We need to stay on the potter’s wheel and allow God to overtake our internal world with His Kingdom.!! The enemy as well as our flesh will try to fight us and convince us why it’s foolish to obey the leading of the Spirit. We have to fight this battle and allow God to win every time. When the Israelites took over a territory, many times God would instruct them to destroy everything. The same is true with the landscape of our heart. Any territory that is still in control of the enemy is an occupied territory!!  The enemy will use that area to expand his control and bondage over our lives. Every sin, every wrong attitude, every wrong thinking must be annihilated!!

My brothers and sisters in Christ, transformation is so important for the life of a believer. We don’t have time to play any religious games and figure out who is mature, anointed, gifted, or whatever. Those things are all important, but being transformed by His power has a greater priority in a believer’s life than determining one’s anointing or gifting! We can’t afford to gather in our churches to impress each other nor does more activity in the church result in transformation.   There is a price each of us has to pay to be free from the yoke of bondage and experience true internal change. We need to keep ourselves at the altar of God and have Him continue to transform us.

In light of God’s mercy towards us, it is our reasonable response to allow His work in our lives to come into complete fruition!! The more we are transformed the better we reflect Jesus. People don’t care about how much we know, our church affiliation, or position in ministry. Believers and unbelievers want to see a life giving person who loves God and genuinely loves and cares for others.

Please pray and ask the Lord to show you one area that needs transformation!!

The next devotional is going to be on the evidence of a transformed life!!

Prayer: Lord, Jesus I pray and ask in your name that you would open our eyes to where the enemy has kept us in bondage. Free us from the chain of darkness and slavery that the enemy has put on us. Deliver us in Jesus’ name. We declare freedom by your power and authority!!

In my own personal life, there have been a few times when I’ve hit a wall spiritually. In those times, I had to seriously look at my life as a whole and examine the areas of my life that I wasn’t experiencing freedom or felt in bondage.

In the last devotional, I wrote about the need to continually be transformed.  We can do all the right religious activity and not see a change or experience freedom in our lives.

Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage. Galatians 5:1

You ran well. Who hindered you from obeying the truth? Galatians 5:7

Why would a free person get entangled with the yoke of bondage again? What are the elements that hinder our transformation and progress with the Lord? In this devotional and the next one, I will speak on some of those elements that keep us in bondage and hinder transformation.

Behold, you desire truth in the inward parts, and in the hidden part you will make me to know wisdom. Psalm 51:6

1. Honesty invites change: One of the first important steps in seeking freedom and transformation is to be honest with our condition. We know what is going on in our internal world and the battles or wrestling that persist. The better trained we are, the less visible our struggles will be to the world around us. We will have the ability to hide them, deny them, or even blame others for our problems, blocking our progress in the transformation process.

2. The Mind must be renewed: Romans  12:2 which I shared in the last devotional is the key starting point to being transformed. We need to continually renew our minds with the truth of God’s word and confront our perspectives, thought process, and perceptions which have been formed over the years. Some of those patterns are so ingrained in us that we don’t even realize there is something wrong with them because in some fleshly way they have protected us or provided for us.

For example, if in our past we have been rejected deeply, that becomes a stronghold in our mind as to how we perceive the world around us when things don’t go the way we hoped. We can easily withdraw from a situation in fear of possible rejection, so we can protect ourselves from pain. That thought process seems to serve us well, but in reality it keeps us in bondage to the fear of rejection, and it hinders our transformation. In addition to the fact that we may lose a relationship unnecessarily because we made wrong assumptions about the person or the situation.

Some people could be selfish, controlling, deceptive, manipulative, or arugmentative. All those things in some twisted way worked in the past to give the flesh what it desired, but if one is to experience transformation, they must be crucified!!!

For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. Galatians 5:13

3. Liberty is not a license to sin: If we knew that the Lord would not tolerate one gossip out of our mouths would we do it? I would hope the answer is “no”. Since we have forgiveness available through Jesus, many of us fall into various sins such as gossip because we know we can be forgiven. Of course the Lord will forgive, but unless we have repented from that habit or character flaw, our transformation will be hindered by the gossiping we involve ourselves with. Forgiveness being available to us is not a permission to go back to the bondage of sin or bad habits.

One way we can stop misusing our liberty is by serving people. That keeps us in a place of humility. It puts feet to the words of love and allows us to go against what our nature desires, so our spirit is fed and we are being transformed.

But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! Galatians 5:15

4. Avoid being consumed by each other: The above scripture tell us not to bite or devour each other. 1Peter 5:8 tells us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”

Recognizing this should keep us alert not to open doors to the enemy because of hurt, offense, pride, or fear. If the enemy can make us believe that another person is the source of our problem, then we come into agreement with the devil to bite and devour others. Biting and devouring someone could be how we speak about them with others or with ourselves. Biting and devouring each other could be shunning others and pushing them away rather than encouraging  them.   Those kinds of actions will keep us in the bondage of hatred, aloofness, and indifference, and they will not produce the transformation that Jesus desires in our souls.

The above scripture (Galatians 5:15) goes so far as to say that we can be consumed by each other. The devil sits back and laughs because we believed him and gave into our flesh by devouring someone rather than allowing God to change us. The transformation happens when we are willing to crucify the flesh and its desire to be unloving. The anger, bitterness, or indifference has to be expelled before there is any room for forgiveness and love. Once we choose to respond the right way, we are on our way to being transformed again by His power and grace!!

We will continue with this subject in the next devotional.

Recently I was at a conference and had an opportunity to meet a very nice lady. In the process of our conversation she asked me how I’ve learned to hear the Lord. Then she began to tell me about her spiritual journey. She said that for 15 years, she led women’s ministry in her church.  She continued by saying,” In the first 20 years of my Christian life, I was well trained, but not transformed. When you are in that mode, you don’t even know that you are not transformed because you’re doing the right things without having much internal change.” She was thankful that today she is in a different place in her life, and she has learned to walk with God and allow Him to transform her.

Every believer has to go through the process of discipleship. We need to learn the word of God, develop a hunger for it, and walk in obedience to it. That’s necessary for our walk with the Lord. However, transformation is a harder and more arduous work than being trained.  If we’re not careful we can start focusing more on the knowledge of the Bible than developing an understanding heart!  At the same time, one can get zealous for approval by continually conforming to others’ expectations.  After a while that’s not enough anymore. Then we want to move to another level. Now, we want to dissect the Word into its Hebrews or Greek counterpart or find it in various translations, so it can speak to us. Eventually,  we develop a good knowledge of the Word, but did it really transform us? We can impress others, but are we more intimate with the Lord?

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2

The scripture clearly shows us that we need to stop conforming to the world, and that’s so important especially to a new believer who all he/she knows is the world. However, over time the conformity issue changes from the world to our surroundings. The Pharisees and Sadducees were well trained people. Their issue wasn’t that they were conformed to the world, but that they were conformed to their own religious group with all their rules and traditions. Unfortunately, their  knowledge kept their faith in a tight box with no room for God’s touch or transformation in their lives.

In Christian circles, if we love and obey God, most likely we are not in danger of conforming to the world. However, there can still be a danger to conforming to a man, a pastor, a priest, or a religion in the name of ”being trained” or “submitting to our authorities” while not getting transformed in the process. The problem gets more complex because those around us encourage the conformity and consider it as a sign of growth and maturity. We know the scripture well and now we can share it with others and get a few “amens”, but  it doesn’t translate into living a more victorious life than we lived a couple of years ago. Since those around us feel the same way, we all go about our life thinking we are doing pretty well as Christians!!

The boxes of religiosity create conformity but not transformation, and it sucks the life out of each person!! The sad thing is that if others are enjoying their relationship with God, we can get annoyed by questioning their obedience to God because they’re too happy with God’s love!!!

The Pharisees in Jesus’ time couldn’t even get excited for those who got healed on Sabbath!!  They were more concerned that Jesus was healing on Sabbath than seeing a person healed. They were so stuck on observing the Sabbath that they would lose their rest to ensure everybody else is really resting on Sabbath!! Isn’t that sad!?

Today, let’s make a commitment to just sit before God and give Him room to speak out of “the box” to us. The Bible should be our boundary when we’re listening to the Lord, not my religious denomination, my church affiliation, a person, or my position. Let’s open ourselves wholly to God and give Him permission to mess around with our tight theology. If you know the Word, it won’t confuse you. It will just free you!! If you don’t know the Word very well, examine what you hear and allow the Lord to confirm it through His scripture.

Jesus came to transform us over and over again!!! The Word of God should lead us to the personhood of God. He doesn’t want us to use His word to get into another religious rut, or sit in a dark box of trained religiosity. Jesus called some of those religious people white-washed tombs.  Tomb is where you find  a dead body not a life giving person!!!

As a parent, we enjoy our children in their different stages of life.  We relish every season of their development such as walking, babbling their first few words, reading for the first time, learning their multiplication tables, and so on. However, those are only pleasurable and cute at the right stage!! If your 13 year old can’t read more than a page, or your 15 year old is still trying to remember the multiplication table, you would be more concerned than joyful!!

Jesus desired His disciples to mature and do well at the right season!!

Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater [works] than these he will do, because I go to My Father. John 14:12

Jesus, the son of God, the perfect one is preparing the disciples for His departure. The disciples were going to move in a new season of life, and more maturity was required of them. Jesus had spent 3 ½ years teaching and developing His disciples. He showed them everything He was doing on earth. He then declared that they will do greater works than he had done!! What a statement of security, humility, and trust on Jesus’ part!!

Recently, I have been teaching my daughter how to drive. She is doing pretty well, but there are times that it’s unnerving to be in the car!! I’m taking a risk with my life and her life by letting her drive. I would prefer to be the driver and just give her rides everywhere.  This may work for a couple of years, but do I want to have a 20 year old who still needs a ride from her Mom? Not really!! That requires me to give her the opportunity to learn to drive in the hope that someday she will become a skilled driver. To let her grow up, I need to take a risk with her, and I also have to be secure enough that when she learns to drive, I’m ok with not being needed for rides anymore!!

Jesus did the same thing with us in much grander scale!! He chooses to trust us with His name. He chooses to trust us with people, because He was secure enough to say that you will do greater works than I have done. That doesn’t make me proud; it brings me to humilit!!. He trusted me with such an awesome task. Lord, can I love your children the way you want me to? Will I represent you well? Can I pass on what I have lived, learned, and know to the next group of Christians? Can I tell them someday, “You will do greater works, and I will be here to cheer you on?”

Jesus is modeling a lifestyle!! He is stretching us not to put our security in our gifting, in what we do, who we know, or how well we do it. The Lord wants us to use what we’ve been given for the season assigned to us. Train others in the process by taking a risk in them, and someday put ourselves out of work by giving our works over to someone else to continue. That could be our children, our friends, our coworkers, or fellow brothers and sisters in Christ!!

Jesus gave the Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20) to His disciples who were still clueless as to who Jesus was and what He came to earth to do. Would you have trusted that group of disciples to carry your name and your mission on the earth?

Lord, help us in humility to consider others better than ourselves. Be willing to take risks with people. Help us trust them because we trust you. We want to be secure enough to pour into others’ lives, so they can mature and take their place, and possibly our place some day!! Give us the courage to be Kingdom minded!! Amen!

Love is such a powerful and transoforming word!!  People can define love any way they wish, but Jesus is our ultimate standard for life, love, and Godliness!! Here is how He sets the standard:

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-34

Why is Jesus stating that this is a new commandment? Haven’t we seen this commandment in other books of the Bible? What is different this time?

This time, Jesus’ standard of love has changed. In the book of Matthew, He told us to love our neighbor as ourselves. The scripture in Matthew bascially tells us that to the degree that we take care of ourselves and our needs, we should be mindful of the needs of others. This is already a difficult thing to do, but this time Jesus tells us that He wants us to love people the way He loved us. That’s a tall order!!

Jesus loves us sacrificially and patiently, and He is expecting us to love others with that same kind of love. The uncondtional love sometimes seems so lofty that we can’t put our arms around it and percieve how it would work in our lives.

One way to describe the unconditional love is to look at myself as a parent. That’s the closest I can get to unconditional love!! The commitment that I have towards my children is unique because they belong to me, and they only have one mother. I have committed years of my life to raise them. For their benefit, I have given things up in my life.  Patienly, I have tried to teach, train, and correct them while I haven’t always it done well. If they get it wrong, I won’t give up on them. If they don’t appreciate me, I don’t stop loving them.  My love stays constant despite disappointments or disagreements. The question is, can I love others that consistently?

Many of us confuse the emotion of love with the responsibility of love. Jesus is giving us a commandment to love. We don’t generally have a problem with this commandment.  We like and welcome the idea of loving others. Peter didn’t think He had a problem loving Jesus even to the “point of death”!! He didn’t know how small his love was until he was tested!!  We are not any different. As soon as difficulties come and disagreements surface, our love is tested and then we realize our love is pretty shallow and flaky!!

Most of us fail the test of love because it is based on emotion rather than the responsibility of love.  We think,” if I get close to someone really fast, then I can really appreciate them and love them better”. Love doesn’t work that way. We can’t muster up enough love to love like Jesus does. Love is an investment of time, desire, and a commitment to keep working on a relationship. Depending on the nature of the relationship, we have to have realistic expectations.  We need to understand each relationship is unique and not try to make it something it isn’t. That only causes frustration for those involved.

Peter was deeply disappointed with himself when he denied Jesus three times. We get disappointed with ourselves and others when a relationship doesn’t work out the way we expected. Jesus doesn’t tell us to expect people to love us, but He gives us the charge to love people!!

We are not called to love out of emotion. That’s how the world loves. Jesus clearly tells us to love each other as He loves us. If we just love out of emotion, we are not any different from the world. We can be loving and happy with each other until we get crossed. Then we walk away like a little five year old picking up our toys to go play with somebody else. That’s childish, immature, carnal, and it’s flaky. It does not represent the love of Christ, and it certainly doesn’t attract anyone to Him.

How about, instead of using the word “love” casually, especially with those who are a challenge to us, start loving them and stay consistent with it? We don’t have to make them our friends right away. Jesus didn’t ask us to do that. He just asked us to love people.

What does this love look like practically speaking? Maybe instead of avoiding someone, go to them and greet them. Next time you get crossed, instead of shutting down, stay engaged in the relationship. When you get offended, instead of telling your best friend about it, go to the person and talk to them about it. Instead of telling people what to do and try to fix them, just show them compassion for now. Show them you care.  It’s time to do love differently. Let’s talk less and be more!!

This is the continuation of the last devotional examining the building blocks that allow a woman to build her house well, and at the same time paying attention to those things that cause a woman to tear her house and her life down!!

The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain.
 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11-12

I love this scripture because it is a foundational verse for a relationship between a husband and wife. Trust is at the core of every relationship and so much more in a marriage relationship as the two become one. A man needs to safely trust his wife knowing that his wife is on the same team with him. So, that when things aren’t going well, she is not tearing him down, questioning his judgment, and throwing accusations at him because of his past mistakes.

A man is the protector and provider for his family, so he has some battles to fight out there. He needs to stay focused, work hard, and remain alert to the dangers facing his family. It is so important that when he comes home and he is with his wife, he has a place of rest and refuge. He feels safe. That he doesn’t have to defend himself or prove himself over and over again, but he knows that his wife is on his side, encouraging him and believing in him.

It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Proverbs 25:24

This scripture applies to any woman who lives or works with others. Women are generally more verbal, and they can be very detailed and specific, which all are great assets. However, those assets can also be a hindrance! A woman wouldn’t mind discussing, debating, sharing, or arguing her point to the nth degree nor can she withhold her displeasure if things aren’t done exactly to her liking. If we’re not careful, this can cause contention or frustration in those around us because others don’t have the energy or care that much to fight every battle!!

The scripture describes sitting on a corner of housetop better than sharing a house with a contentious woman. A housetop in those days would have been a flat roof top. It would rarely get used except for drying fruits for winter, or possibly sleeping at night if it was too hot in summer. That’s not a place you want to spend too much time because it gets lonely and isolated. So basically the scripture says, it is better to feel lonely and isolated and not have much around me than to be around a woman who is contentious!! Ladies, we need to appreciate the people around us, praise them and give thanks for what they regularly do, so when we aren’t around, we’re actually missed for being a voice of encouragement.

 Proverbs 31:10-31

These scriptures describe a woman who is capable, busy, industrious, giving, generous, and talented. She is a woman who is focused on her tasks. She is well respected with her own family. She is managing the affairs of her household diligently and minding her own business. She is not looking around to see who is noticing her. She knows her assignment, but she also knows what is “not” her assignment. She understands the boundary and the sphere God has given her to operate in.

Luke 1:39-56

These scriptures describe the relationship between Elizabeth and Mary. They were relatives and they both had gotten pregnant during the same time period. Elizabeth was having a child in old age, but Mary wasn’t even married yet and God was giving her child. What is beautiful about their relationship is that Mary trusted Elizabeth and that’s why she quickly went to her cousin for comfort and security!! Elizabeth being open to the leading of the Lord accepted and received Mary for the call and the purpose of God on her life. The two women had similarities but also major differences in the call of God and the sons the Lord was giving them. They each understood their place and each other’s place and were able to love and accept each other based on God’s assignment, not each other’s wishes or preferences.

If we are going to relate well to other women in our lives, whether it’s family members or friends, we need to be willing to receive them for who God has made them and His purpose for their lives. That takes away a lot of stress eliminating our expectations of the person or trying to change them into who we want them to be. At the same time, even if we are really enamored by someone, understanding this helps us not to want to copy or compete with them desiring what they have. This allows for long lasting, healthy relationships that can be a blessing for decades to come.

For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. 1Peter 3:10

Our tongue is so powerful that in the book of James it tells us that it can set a forest on fire!! Our tongue can be used to bring life, healing, and reconciliation to a person. Or, it can set a house on fire by tearing our loved ones down by criticizing, gossiping, or backbiting. It requires a great amount of self-control for not using the tongue for evil. 

To be a wise woman who wants to build her house, marriage, children, friendships, and churches, we must pay close attention to what we say. When we use our tongue for life, healing and reconciliation, over time we’ll find we’ve been building people as well as our own house, and we can sit back and enjoy the fruit of it in our lives!!

Building takes a lot of work, time, energy, and patience. On the other hand, tearing down doesn’t take a lot of effort or time. You can see an example of that in big buildings or high risers. It may have taken years to build a large building, but when they are ready to tear it down in the matter of minutes or hours that whole building comes down!! We need to be consistent in how we build, be willing to mature in areas of our weakness, and be careful not to tear down!!

Be thankful for the areas that you are doing well.

Find one or two areas that you know the Lord is speaking to you and ask Him to show you how you can do things differently.

If you are married, show these scriptures to your husband. If you are willing to be courageous enough, ask him how he would evaluate you building your house. Make sure you’re ready to hear what he has to say!! It’s not the time to defend. Just simply receive!!

The wise woman builds her house,  but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. Proverbs 14:1

It’s a sobering fact that a woman can build her house, but she also has the power to tear her house down! Let’s take a look at some scriptures to find those building blocks that allow a woman to build her house, and some of those factors that can cause her to tear her house down.

My beloved is mine, and I am his. He feeds his flock among the lilies. Song of Solomon 2:16

The above scripture is foundational to a woman’s life. A woman yearns to be loved and valued. She desires to feel special and appreciated. Women usually look to their husbands or girlfriends to get those needs met. While husbands and girlfriends can satisfy some of those needs temporarily, only the Lord can fully satisfy those yearnings.

The more intimate we become with the Lord, we find that He truly is the only one who understands us better than we can understand ourselves. We are His beloved. There is no fear of losing His attention or needing to compete for His attention.

The Lord loved us long before we loved Him!! He knows our weaknesses and our shortcomings, and He still chooses to be in a relationship with us and encourages us to grow and mature. This is a safe and secure place. It takes away a lot of insecurities that women usually struggle with such as a needing to have a best friend, being understood by those around them, or craving a lot of affirmation to make sure they are adequate. This intimacy is a by-product of spending time with the Lord by reading His word, worshipping him and communicating with Him in prayer.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30

The Lord is clearly telling each woman not to depend on her charm or her beauty. A woman can be charming with her ways and her words. If she uses her charm fraudulently, in order to get what she wants in a relationship, that is being deceitful. She is trying to manipulate or control the situation to gain favor, access, or power.

Proverbs 31:30 reminds a woman that regardless of how beautiful one maybe, the external beauty doesn’t last forever, so don’t invest your time, money, or energy on external beauty because it will be passing sooner or later. While charm and beauty can bring attention and applause from man, the Lord values the woman who fears and honors Him. This woman is not dependent on her own fleshly “power” tools to make something happen, but she is dependent on the Lord. She is trusting that with humility He will give her what she needs. Ruth was a great example of this. Ruth’s inner beauty, her life of love and sacrifice, brought the honor of God and the praise of man to her life.

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4

A crown is a symbol of honor, status, royalty, and authority. When a woman is a crown to her husband, it means he is even more honored with his wife than without his wife because of how she relates to her husband. She is an added, honorable benefit to his life. She respects him for his authority, so he can walk into any room with his head lifted high. With this crown on his head, knowing that people see him highly honored because of how his wife talks about him and how she relates to him. He is not shameful for his wife’s actions or words. He is not wondering if she’ll do something foolish or how much she’s gossiped about him to others.

I hear a lot of women who are waiting for their husbands to look like a king before they can honor him. As a woman, when we are in the right place with the Lord, the Lord calls us to take the step of trusting God by honoring our husbands where they’re at. Obviously if they are in gross sin, we don’t ignore it or deny it, but the enemy usually bombards a woman with unfulfilled expectations of her husband that causes discontentment or tension in the relationship. We also need to be quick to forgive, so no root of bitterness has an opportunity to grow in our hearts.

Proverbs 12:4 makes a serious statement about a woman bringing shame to her husband. It calls it to be like rottenness to his bones!! Ladies, the way we live our lives and relate to our husbands can bring great honor to him or can bring shame so deep that it gets to his bones!!  Sometimes, we are quick to apologize and say, “I love you.”, but the question is “Can you respect him?” This is a more critical question to a man, and we need to be mindful of it.

The above scriptures are good scriptures to mediate on and allow the Holy Spirit to show how you are building your house and your life!!

How are you building today? Are there areas that you have been tearing things down that need restoration?